Making Peace With A Nonlinear Life
By Lisa Shanken
March 16, 2026
Some neurodivergent adults carry some grief about how their life has unfolded. It often lingers in the background, showing up as self-doubt, comparison, or a sense that you missed something you hoped to understand.
Releasing the Manual
From an early age, most of us are given a timeline that looks like this: finish school > build a career > become independent and build relationships. When your life does not follow that order, it can feel like a personal failure rather than a mismatch between you and the expectations placed on you.
What these comparisons rarely account for is the amount of invisible work neurodivergent people are doing. Navigating environments that are overstimulating, learning social rules that are inconsistent or unspoken, recovering from repeated burnout are all things that were not in the original playbook.
Recalibration, Not Regression
A nonlinear life is simply a life shaped by adaptation. Growth may come in intense bursts followed by long periods of rest. Many people have been taught to see these pauses as regressions, but I see them as necessary recalibrations.
When people begin to release rigid timelines, energy that once went into comparison can be redirected toward care and curiosity. There is wisdom in needing more time.
Start Your Chapter of Growth and Partnership
Your Journey to Fulfilling Partnership.
Neurodivergent adults can find and keep fulfilling partnerships marked by authenticity, understanding, and mutual growth. Whether your path has been linear or filled with detours, your capacity for connection is real. This is why we started Love Bloom at Tri-Wellness. Navigating the dating world is hard, and we want to help you through it to find “your person.”
Lisa Shanken
My passion is to help you live your healthiest and most harmonious life, but in a way that’s realistic and practical for you as a unique individual on this planet. My philosophy is all about “balance,” never a diet since a diet is not sustainable for life, aka Kill The Diet.
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Beyond Small Talk: The Power of Shared Interests
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Lisa’s weight loss plan really gave me a new insight to healthy eating and living. I was diagnosed with breast cancer in January 2015. Healthy living/easting/exercise has become very important to me and my family and this program really helped me get even more on the course with this and helped me lose weight.
Danielle D, Great Neck, NY
When I heard about the 10 Day Weight Loss Challenge, I wasn’t sure if it would be a good fit, since as a physician, I understand nutrition and health (and therefore knew the dangers of fad diets, etc…), and I do my best to exercise (though not always enough). But as a single mother of 2, it’s still very challenging ti “fit in all in” (including cooking healthy meals for my children) due to my busy schedule. And when my time is short, bad habits crop up and weight gain follows.
Dr. Gila Ackerman, Boulder, CO
Psychiatrist
Lisa has made an enormous contribution to my health and strength. I have seen and felt the most fantastic changes in an amazingly short time.
Chessie F, Boulder, CO
I just wanted to say you were amazing through this 10 day process! I learned so much from you! You were very thorough in all areas of the challenge and got back to us in such a quick manner with our questions. It was a great jump start into a more healthy life style that’s for sure!
Colby E, Boulder, Colorado
I LOVE the recipes, simple, few ingredients, appealing. I like the idea of using the list of staples you provided when i was tempted to cheat!
Phyliss S, Spring House, PA
I worked with Lisa to develop a holistic wellness plan that has allowed personal growth without having to completely change my lifestyle. Her programs are designed around your personal needs, so I always feel like I've gotten the most from my sessions and leave with manageable goals. Lisa's three-prong approach to wellness (fitness, nutrition and health) is helping me live a balanced and grateful life.
Ali S., Boulder, CO
I’ve been through the ringer with different dieting plans through the years. Some helped me lose weight and some didn’t – but it didn’t matter because I would always gain it back. I didn’t know if this 10 day Weight Loss Challenge would be the answer since everyone says they have the “BEST” way to lose weight. But this one seemed to be more doable – like instead of starving myself, keeping track of calories (“been there done that – VERY annoying!”) and things I know I wouldn’t stick to.
Jill W, Park, NY
Lisa, you have been a very positive role model for me! Through the exercise and diet I’m becoming healthy and more positive about my life!!! Thanks!